The Life Events That Can Mark You As A Disappointing Dad


How will you feel in 25-30 years time, when the kids have flown the roost and are adults, forging their own way in life? What life skills will you have taught them, and how will their feelings about you be? If you’re anything like me, it’s a petrifying thought and something that is always playing on your mind. The reality is that even when we think we are doing the right thing, it can often end up damaging your kids in some small way – there’s no escaping it.

That said, if you always try your damnedest to be the best possible dad you can be, I’m pretty sure that you will be able to hold your head high. But also, make sure you are aware of some of the biggest issues that children grow up having about their parents, and some of the incidents in life that can get in the way of your ability to be a great father. Let’s take a look at some of the big ones right now.

Those times you didn’t show up

For your kids, the plays, school shows, or musical performances they are involved in will remain in their memory forever. And if you weren’t there to see them, it’s likely they will remember that, too. Yes, it can be tough to persuade the boss, but you need to be able to stand up to anyone and everyone, whenever possible, to see your children be part of something important. And if your only excuse is a weekend away with friends, your guilt levels will be worse than you can possibly imagine right now. Turn up, be there, and support your kids – you only get one shot.


That accident, injury, or illness

Man flu? Painful toe? Bear with a sore head? If your mood is significantly affected by illness, accident or injury, your kids are going to notice. When you are sick or incapacitated, it’s a worrying time for all your family, and the way you deal with it is going to have repercussions. You can’t just give up, even if you are afflicted with a serious injury – you still have to fulfil your role, and there is no time to feel sorry for yourself. So, be proactive. Get to the doctor and sort out a recovery plan. See if you are eligible for injury claims and show fight instead of retreat. And don’t allow yourself to dwell on the past, when you need to focus on the future you have with your children. If you want to be a role model,  you have to start acting like one.

When you didn’t read to your kids

Finally, your children don’t care – or even understand – how busy your day has been. The chances are, so has theirs. All they want is to spend time with their father, and reading them a book before bedtime is a great way of giving them an opportunity to do so. Sure, it’s tempting to allow the kids to watch TV or use a gadget before bedtime, but if you can get them interested in reading, storytelling, and books, they will have better chances in life. No excuses – just pick up the book and read.


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